A Story of Love, Sacrifice and Yarn
The decision has been made for quite some time now; at least a year. I decided to sell my weaving loom.
My relationship with the loom is a sentimental and emotional one. The short version is my mom gave me the loom for my birthday. It was really expensive and she didn’t care. We didn’t have room for it in the house and she didn’t care. She didn’t think my dad would approve of spending that much on a birthday gift for a hobby that may just be a phase and she didn’t care. Selling it may have broken her heart, or she may have understood. But I will never know. Selling it will be hard. I will probably cry. I may be tearing up right now…
I put it out at our garage sale last summer. I made flyers to hang in yarn shops and other bulletin boards. I passed the flyer along to friends who have other fiber-friends. I posted ads on Craigslist. I got a few responses just from the Craigslist ad, some of them spammers and a few asking for more info and of course if my price was at all flexible.
A couple weeks ago I was here at work with a lull in activity and I had an idea. I thought I’d whip up a quick couple paragraphs detailing the what, how and why of me and the loom and then post that on Craigslist. My quick couple paragraphs soon turned into a 1,500 word essay; a novella if you like. It just flowed out of me like a free-writing exercise with correct punctuation and grammar (for the most part, I’m no English major). Somehow I had that whole 3-page story written, edited and posted in less than a half hour. With no tears or even a shred of emotion.
Amazingly, I think it worked. I have at least 3 people that want to come see it. One this weekend and the other two women are waiting to hear what the 1st one decides. I could nearly have a bidding war if I finagled it that way. (but I won’t)
I was telling my friend, Kristy, a couple days ago about my story and my posting it on Craigslist and the huge difference in responses I’ve gotten between just the normal For Sale ad and the Story with For Sale note at the bottom. We wondered why this ad was getting more visits and why I was getting more responses. Responses with actual potential for panning out.
Kristy had not read the story or seen the ad. We were just hanging out at her house and while she was cleaning up she asked me to read it aloud to her. I thought for half a second, wondering if I would be able to read it without crying. I figured since I wrote the thing without a big freak-out, I could read it that way as well.
It started out fine. We laughed, we rolled our eyes and Kristy complimented my writing. Then I got to that whole death part. Wow. It was so different reading it out loud. I completely lost it. We both cried. I read one sentence at a time, pausing to take deep breaths. Blinking hard to clear the tears and swallowing hard to try to keep them contained.
After I read the story, we were quiet for a minute. Through sniffles I said, “ok, I get it”. We looked at each other and laughed. Kristy agreed. Something about making the seller into a real human and the item for sale into a treasured possession, not just some old thing ready to be kicked to the curb. I think also for making the potential purchaser into a human as well. More like I am looking for someone to adopt my beloved loom; and less like I just want it out of my house and will sell it to the first schmo who comes along.
So here’s the story. Like I said, it’s kinda long but worth it. Also, if it doesn’t make you cry, you have no soul. On that note… Enjoy!
Not so long ago, in a town not so far away there lived a girl named Candice. She was a student at Eastern Michigan University in the Textiles Department where she learned to weave. She loved this new skill and quickly became obsessed; as she had before with quilting, sewing, knitting and all of her other hobbies.
She regularly came home to her mother with stories of the glory of weaving with the beautiful woven scarves and table runners to prove it. Anything between delicate lace, bulky wool singles, roving and even scrap fabric could be woven through the long warp ends. It was amazing and magical how yarn thrown back and forth with a simple over-under-over-under could create fabric and beautiful garments.
Candice’s mother was enthralled with the process she was learning about from her daughter. She saw the sparkle in Candice’s eyes when she talked about weaving and decided then that Candice must have her own loom. Candice’s birthday was coming up and no other gift would be acceptable. And not just any loom. A 24-inch LeClerc 8-shaft Compact Floor Loom.
Candice’s mom located the perfect loom, paid for it and had it delivered in time for the birthday celebration. She told the man at the loom shop that it was to be a surprise birthday gift for her daughter and to please not call the house. The man did call the house though and left a message on the answering machine. One spring day, a week before her birthday Candice innocently checked the answering machine. There was a message from the man with the loom. He had a question about the time of delivery of the large birthday gift. Candice was at once excited and disappointed. She was excited to learn of the amazing gift she was about to receive but of course disappointed to learn of it this way and ruin what was sure to be a great surprise.
Candice left the message on the machine, as to not let on that she had accidentally snooped out her birthday gift. She went on with her day and in the next week tried to forget about the message she heard. But she couldn’t forget, she was too excited.
Finally the day of her birthday celebration arrived and she was surrounded by her immediate family; mom, dad, sister and her boyfriend of nearly three years. As usual, birthdays entailed the dinner of the birthday-girl’s choice and the onslaught of presents followed by cake and ice cream. The other birthday ritual in her family was the constant teasing of the birthday-girl, making her think her birthday was actually forgotten and there were no presents. “Presents… What presents? It’s not like it’s your birthday or something…”
After dinner they all helped clear off the table and sat back down for the gift portion of the evening. Mom continued with the “what presents?” act as she turned toward her studio to bring out an armload of meticulously wrapped packages. Admittedly the armload was much smaller than it had been in all 23 of her previous birthdays; she knew why, but didn’t say anything. After these few presents were opened the hilarious act of, “ok, that’s all you get” continued.
Mom always kept the birthday cake in her studio because it was “colder than a witch’s tit” in there until summer when it instantly turned “hotter than hell”. She asked Candice to go in the studio and see if someone remembered to make her a cake. Of course she knew there would be a cake and she also knew that this is how she would be presented with her birthday loom. Candice turned the corner of the studio doorway and saw the giant piece of equipment covered with a sheet. She instantly panicked that her feigned excitement would be obvious. She gasped and muttered a few Oh My Gods and with her eyes wide turned back around to see her mom just beaming with happiness. There was nothing mom loved more than spoiling her girls. She was also thrilled that her eldest daughter had grown to love fiber, sewing and all things creative just like her mom and that was something they could share.
In the weeks that followed Candice set up the loom, dressed it and made a few basic things. A baby blanket for a friend’s new babe, a few small scarves and a big big mess. The only space in the house they could set up the loom was in the middle of mom’s own studio, which was just a spare bedroom off the dining room and only about 12 foot square. It was jam-packed already before the loom showed up, but mom would sacrifice that space for her daughter’s new endeavor. It had the added bonus of them both working in a small space together. It was both frustrating and cozy at the same time.
Fast forward to that autumn, Candice started a new job and looking for her own apartment. Over the next three years she moved through three apartments, taking the loom with her each time. The loom, while loved sentimentally for the great gift that it was, was loosing it’s luster for Candice. The time that weaving required was just not available when there were so many other hobbies to attend to. Not to mention having a full time job and continuing her college education in the evenings. Add onto that a relationship that was developing into a long-term commitment and all the family functions and responsibilities that come with it and Candice’s free time was vanishing quickly.
Over the next couple years Candice and her then boyfriend bought a house together. The loom of course came with her into the new house and was well cared for, but never used. After more than three years of not using the loom Candice started thinking about selling it. She couldn’t bare to tell her mom that she was losing interest in weaving, especially after Candice learned of the very big fight that ensued after her dad found out how much this birthday gift had cost. The cost of the loom was more than financial at that point because Candice’s mom had not consulted her husband before purchasing such an extravagant gift.
This is where the story takes an unexpected and shocking turn. In 2008 Candice’s mom died suddenly. There would be no more birthday gifts from her, small or large. Christmas had lost its appeal and nothing would ever be the same. Even all of Candice’s favorite hobbies; the things that made her tick, the things that comforted her always, were not able to pull her out of her funk. Everything seemed a little dulled around the edges.
It only took about nine months for Candice to go back to thinking about selling the loom. This time though, the pain was not in talking to her mom about wanting to sell the gift. The pain came in that the loom was now a sentimental symbol of her mother’s love and sacrifice. And although she hadn’t woven anything in more than 3 years, she was confused about keeping it or selling it. She went back and forth with the decision and posted ads in a few places, secretly hoping no one would respond but at the same time just wanting the ordeal to be over with.
When someone responded that they wanted the loom and would be in town the following weekend to look at it and probably purchase it, her heart ached. She dreaded having to watch the loom being carried out to a stranger’s truck and driving away. When the deal fell through she was relieved. The relief quickly turned to disappointment and back again to relief. Candice was still conflicted on what to do.
It has now been one year and seven months since the death of her mother and Candice still has the loom and it has been at least five years since anything has been woven on it. Many ads have been circulated (but not at JoAnn Fabrics because they would not let her post her For Sale flyer), emails have been exchanged but there has been no sale of the loom.
Candice is ready now for the loom to move on to a new home. A home where it will be loved and well cared for. Beautiful things will again be made and worn by people that love fiber as much as Candice and her mother did. The loom will always remain in her heart and be a wonderful memory of the thoughtfulness and love of her dear mommy.
24-inch
8-harness, 10-treadle
Compact LeClerc Weaving Loom
FOR SALE
More info and pics available.
$850
Email Candice using the link above if you are interested in the loom.
Or visit http://www.textilestockpile.com if you liked this story and would just like to read more about Candice and her fiber adventures with and without her mom.
So that’s my story. Someone is coming to look at the loom on Saturday and I will be strong… again.